Relationships
Have you ever fallen in love?
were you in a relationship?
is yes then what kind of relationship were you in ?
and all the time that you spent with your loved one worth it?
did you already know what was going to happen to your relationship?
was it love? do we actually know what is love?
do all relationships end in good or sad endings?
how much do we know about those relationships?
what is knowing in relationships?
are we blind when it comes to emotions?
how many times were you in a relationships?
how many times did you fall in love?
how many kinds of relationships are there?
do we understand the true nature and rules of relationships when we enter into one?
why are relationships strongly biased towards women?
what makes you a good lover, husband, father, son?
what kind of woman will make an ideal wife?
what do men seek in a woman?
why is it so difficult for two persons to co-exist all thier life?
if that is the case why marriage?
is marriage that really important ?
do we have to think alike to get married?
how are live-in relationships?
is there anything called love out there?
Oh my my these many questions running through the new age lovers and youth, where are the answers?well today in this post i will discuss everything about relationships , male and female thinking and what is going wrong today, and what went right in good old days, and all kinds of relationships that exist on this planet, Figure out which relationship category you will fall into and read what are the chances of it being successfull.
TYPES OF RELATIONSHIP:
The regular relationship
Boy sees a girl , girl sees a boy , boy meets girl and they fall in love and they are into a relationship, nothing new , this has been the beginning of a classic age old relationship and love, so what brews up after that first cup of coffee, or bokay , or first expression of love, and a candle light dinner? and after that magical first kiss?
Most of these relationships are infatuations irrespective of age ,for boys the chase is over , for girls they have a boy who got thier attention, the next step for the boy is to get physical and for the girl is to test his malehood, in many ways like his caring attitude, intelligence, understanding nature, his reputation, his background etc etc, this is exactly where boys tend to backdown because this means serious committment, and no boy is ready for that even in his middle ages coz they dont want to loose out on options (typical male behaviour).so they try and act and fulfill every whim and fancy of the girl to get physical. After they have achieved what they tried so hard for, and just when the girl started to feel secure as she got the BF that she is looking for , the boy/male comes to his natural attitude which he was hiding all these days from her and there starts the " forbidden fruit", girl says he is changed but he hasnt , he is just being original now, then the blame game starts , she will start comparing every small thing he did to how he used to do , in the beginning , the boy gets worked up and he says he has enough from her. Friends and relatives add thier spices to the situation and there goes the relationship for a toss, the male is more confident of his approach that he was successful in getting what he wanted and getting rid of unnecessary arguents that he wanted to avoid,ready to prowl on the next girl, The girl now has learnt a lesson and says she doesnt trust guys anymore , spends some time with her friends and family,and is ready for a better actor to exploit her again.
Question is who has set wrong expectations ? is it the boy who had no choice but to act or is it the girl who always wanders far away from reality, and gives in to sweet lies but stays away from bitter truth? in the end "HURT" is what looms over such relationships, from the beginning.
Success ration: Chances of such relationships to survive over a long period are less, these are realationships that are short lived by various factors like " work" "jealousy" "doubt" "chauvanism" "money" " parents" "friends", if you want this relationship to make permanent get married as soon as you can in this relationship.
The long love affair
we often hear and see that there are people who say they are in a relationship from last 7 or 9 years and then we got married , or we still going strong , and we think true love does exist.Most of these relationships last because of habituation rather than love, couples in this kind of relations are " STUCK" because of various factors, either they think we have invested a lot of time and effort to let it go now, or they are worried about what the world might think as they will loose the " STEADY" tag or simply because they are together for a long time and they are now habits of each other that they find hard to get rid of, there is everything in these relationships apart from love,. Mostly these relationships stretch for a long time because any of the partner decides to compromise and give the reins to the other one to decide and lead thier relationship, they both know inside that this is a one way relationship, but somehow will never dare to break it or do anything that will harm thier relationship may be due to selfish needs of both the partners , or out of fear that they might not get adjusted to somebody new after such long association,.The major time spent in the relationship goes to either acting that they love each other or convincing all the time that they are happy with themselves and everything is well around them , This is just a volcano ready to erupt anytime, leading the partners to cheat on each other and still get back to each other continuing thier so called Love affair. They become emotional if a break up topic comes up even by mistake and they tend to continue thier relationship even after knowing that
thier partner is cheating on them, this is FATAL ADDICTION.
Success ratio: These are the kind of relationships that lead to suicides or rustication, in other words " devadas/dasi", if both the partners continue to compromise in thier relationship , this can actually work even if its in the favour of one partner only / on the other hand when this relation" breaks" its all hells loose" stinking the most of all relationships with both sides , claiming how much " time " " money" " efforts" " emotions" " sex" put into this relationship and how they tolerated each other for so long, and how they have given number of chances to make this work etc.IF YOU ARE ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP LIKE THIS CHANCES ARE YOU END UP NO WHERE EVEN IF YOU GET MARRIED.
Casual relationships
like the tittle says it all, casual relationships are tailor made for todays youth and present times, casual relationships , give you all the pleasure and space that you lack in a regular relationship without loosing that mutual respect towards each other, The feel good factor in this relationship Is because of no expectations from both the partners and no seriousness, this is purely physical and little above freidnship. They are boon to working class, with relationships flourishing only on weekends and holidays, casual relationships are short term and encourage multiple partners, these relationships are rules free and free and social hiatus as you can continue with your " single" relationship status . They hold no strings attached.
Success ratio: Casual flings are vey short lived and they are born for short term, anybody trying to make them permanent will only create hassles , because casual turned regular love relationship is the worst disaster that can happen to anybody. These relationships are risky for girls over a period of time because of its multiple partner nature, there would be a " easily available" brand attached to the girl , which further will enhance the chances of getting bad feed back when she intends to settle down seriously, like wise to guys as well, .Casual relationships are great only if you stick to this rule of time and casual attitude and choosing the right partner. Casual relationships also have a serious angle where in one of the partner unknowingly becomes serious and expects the other side to do the same forgetting what kind of relationship they are into, and pose serious threat if his feelings arent reciprocated.
Emotional relationship:
These relationships can be any other relationship in the beginning , but over a period of time due to the nature of the partner , either both or one this will turn into a emotional relationship, which strives and survives only on emotional expressions, self victimisation, sympathy, obsession, hatred and some times excess love. None of these factors are good for nay relationship. people involved in such relationships go through great amount of emotional stress, black mail without thier knowledge and do many things in order to keep thier relation alive, these relationships are result of excess love and obsessed words and expectation in the beginning , which the partners tend to make true even though its futile. They act and behave very typical and normally dont gel with others, they are easily offended when some one comments thier relationship , they cry and react and burst out for small reasons.and always look for sympathy, they do all this unintentionally , as thier mind is in a stage of trance due to hectic mental stress and thier judging capability of practicality and reality take a serious beating , crippling them with severe depression, hypertension, emotional outbursts.
Success ration: Prolonged relationships of this kind will seriously affect the partners both health and socially as suicidal tendencies follow closely with emotional stress. Couples in a emotional relationship can never move on in life, if they are going through a break up, they try every possilbe way to get thier partner back, including lies, false suicide attacks,dramatic conversations, involving friends etc. It takes a great deal of persuasion and comforting from parents friends near and dear ones to get them out of these kind of relationships.I SAY STAY AWAY.
Extramarital Affairs:
Relationships outside the marriage while you are married.extra marital affairs are result of " Dissatisfaction" "anger" " stress" " routine" " monotony" of either of the partners in a marriage. While the male partners are predominant in these relationships and always seek for one even though knowing the consequences. The female counterparts are no less criminals in initiating such relationships, my assumption is that the very idea of " hiding" and meeting gives a psychological thrill to the partners that makes them keep these relationships alive. some of the relationships are result of helplessness due to " promotion" " financial conditions" pure " lust" or out of " anger" on thier husbands or wives. These relationships make a deep impact on the marriages and often result in divorce, disturbed families suicides and even murders.
Success ratio: Extra marital affairs are fun only if played by rules and rule #1 being " you can be happy only if everybody is happy" i have seen couples carrying extramarital affairs all thier life and that too without disturbing either of the families, it was like both of them got married with two people again, except for a few individuals who are matured and know what they are doing, these relationships are always risky, they might feel like relaxing and relieving at the moment but always have adverse affects afterwards.These relationships always float at the worst times and they cannot be hidden for long, and when they float they take you down with everything around you " respect" " love" " family" "status" " husband" " son" " daughter" "father" " mother" everything will be lost in no matter of time. this one is only for the skillfull players , rest BEWARE out of every five murders that happen in india 1 is due to extramarital affairs.
Incest relationships:
incest relationships are the relationships between brother and sister, mother and son, father and daughter,cousin brothers and sisters,father -in-law and sister-in-law, son-in-law and mother-in-law,affair with husbands brother and wife's sister, or with fathers brother or mothers sister. These are forbidden relationships , that attract serious consequences and disturb families for generations , they deal with character assassination
did anybody read the term " KAMATURAANAM NA BHAYAM NA LAJJA" from " kamasutra"? lust has no morals and no relationships in other words.incests are on the rise alarmingly all over the world, they have been active in india since ages under the cover of culture and heritage. They are the prime cause to have led division of Joint families to nuclear families although everybody tells nonsensical reasons for joint families to disappear , incest or the doubt of incest relationships caused many families to cut thier size.Incest relationships are hard to find out as they are always in safe protection of the original relation to the outside world, and to the family.
Success ratio: They work out just fine because mostly the partners are bought up in the same family and atmosphere, they share the same views and know thier partner better than anybody else in the world. people in incest relationships grow up and get married like everybody else but they continue thier relationship all thier life while carrying the duties as a wife / husband to somebody else.
Marriage between own brother and sisters are fast becoming common in the western world, while things out here are still secretive but active. I had a funny thought the other day, if adam and eve were god's first creation and if we were all sons and daughters of adam and eve then human race populated through sibling relationship aint we? i cant comment more on this coz people in such relationships know better.
No attachment relationship :
This is a rare relationship that brews up rarely between two people because it needs two very like minded persons, this is very different from casual relationship, people involved in this relationship only meet to have sex and nothing more, this is a result of purely physical attraction..These relationships are periodical and short lived or end the moment they are finished with the urge of sex with each other , and this relationship also ignites over a period of time, but again only to satisfy thier longing urge from the past.Partners dont reveal anything to each other , thier relationship status doesnt matter, thier past, present nothing matters, they dont even talk about each others views, this is over the moment they want it to end, very practical and very reasonable as long as they dont complicate it.
Long distance relationship:
Long distance relationships are result of either of the partners from any relationship have to travel in order to make career, studies, family, .Due to feelings already attached to thier loved ones they decide to maintain realtionship from far away, meeting occasionally.Long distance relationships are not for regular relationships, they can work wonders for people in extramarital affairs and no attachment relationships, friendship, one night stands, illicit relationships but not for regular love affairs, they are a curse because of thier fatality ratio, they do not work for couples for varous reasons and often end up in break ups.This does not last long the moment you travel long.
Partners all of a sudden feel lonely space which they fulfill with friends and activities and eventually bumping into someone that would draw you into a relationship, and then partners in long distance go through confusion on whether they should wait or let go , and this will lead to rupture , arguments, disappointments, doubt, and break up finally.So people in long distance relationships say bye bye to your bf/gf the moment you book your ticket for a long time, the only way to save your relationship is either you join him/her or make sure they dont leave at all, however there are always exceptions , a mere3% of LD relationships are successfull out of every 100 .
Friendship relationship:
The most happening and most secure way of relationship these days is friendship relationship, when i spoke about this concept 10 years back nobody approved , but today everybody i mean everybody is endorsing this for various secured reasons.the rules of friendship have changed and the new age teens are rewriting the definiton of friendship, we often see people calling somebody on opp gender thier best freinds for life, chances are they not only share similar views but occasionally same bed... reason?? I trust him with my life because he is my best friend says a girl, then y dont you trust him with your body and share it with him? this is the new age question and it is being answered at every possible oppurtunity, Girls and guys are giving more importance to freindship relationships than regular relationships, sometimes regular relationships fail because of friendship relationship, Friendship relationships are more secured for girls coz they know the person for qite soem time and thier comfort level is also high , and the demanding and dominationg nature of regular relationships is absent due to understanding bond between friends which is already existing. For guys this is a new thing they are exploring , although they like being in friendship relationship they are worried about the same happening with them from regular gf's.you can always shelter in friendship if anything goes wrong with friends with no hard feelings.complaints and failures are very less due to short duration or not so regular basis of this relationship, this is working for everybody and for all people in all kind of relationships . Next time if you gf/bf is having friend in opp gender you better watch out, coz there is definitely a chance of friendship relationship, having said that, this is also most hypocratic relationship with both partners denying anything of that sort and upon doubting the immediately start counter attacking with lines like " how cheap is your thinking" " how can you say such a thing " etc, the moment your bf/gf utter these lines , it is confirmed that they are lying .
Mother nature hasnt created any relationship between opp genders apaprt from the natural one, if we want to rewrite the rules of nature and think we have succeeded then think twice coz it aint working.
success ratio: Friendship relationships can create havoc and lead to extreme jealousy, doubt, and violent behaviour from your regular bf/gf if given more importance to friends often leading to serious consequences leading to death as well. Friendship is a very pure emotion and very divine if you are blessed with good friends please do not corrupt this relation. Of all relationships friendship relationships cause serious damage to one's mentality and social status for a long long time .
One night stands:
These relation ships truly live upto thier name, these are the most comfortable and most flexible relations of all times, you go to a coffee shop , or a night club, or theatre , you see an attractive girls/boy and immediately you strike off chemistry only felt by you both, and the chemistry is so strong that it surpasses all the rules of engagement and leads directly to bedroom. you have an entire night of pleasure and you call it quits the next morning, no strings attached, no questions asked, no hard feelings, both of you still share the same satisfaction from last night and move on.Fortunately you bump into each other again, the magi may strike or may not strike but the memories of one night stand rejoices all the time, most of the time one night stands are betterr off without second night or else the story extends and will lead to casual , no attachments or friendship relationship,which is a strict NO-NO, there is everything in one night stands except from love and respect.Girls involving in one might stands are branded as " cheap" " easy" " loose" tags.
In a country where gossip and rumours rule the roost, one night stands are not for girls who wants to enter serious marital life, it will effect and disturb not only her life but also her family's reputation.
Verdict: One night stands do not have future nor any FIZZ in them after a night.
Illicit affairs:
These are affairs that have no bounds or boundaries , these involve people who are fickle minded, retarded.People with huge sexual apetite, people angry with society , people who have lost vision in life,depressed, cunning and loose morals.These people have no shame , respect or any other qualities of social animals, they just want thier needs to be fulfilled, these relations start with people from very low society to high class societies. They cross all barriers to make them stink and publicise coz of thier unsatisfied anger or hatred state of mind towards thier family/spouse/society .Most of these relationships have no direction nor meaning or a happy ending, they float like mushrooms and start stinking from the time they are born. People in these affairs slow down over a period of time or end up as criminals, drug addicts, loners etc.
But if given good counselling and restrict them, people with such attitude do sober down and get back to normal human life, chances are less but definitely possible (read more about the characteristics in types of women and men).
Work oriented:
There are some relationships that sprout in our work place, that are a result of mutual need or career growth or ambitious attitude to grow fast. These relationships are strictly give and take, and do not involve any kind of emotions. Once the favours are exchanged the partner move on to there next higher ups or thier next target in ladder.Some of these relationships are forced relationships also leaving no choice tot he female but to succumb to thier boss's lust in order to keep intact all the hard work she has done so far, mostly women are the one giving the sexual favors,these days men are also exploited by similar thinking women bosses, . These relationships can never turn into any other relationship even if they do they dont even last for short time.
Drawbacks: You will be branded with an image that you can only sleep but you are not good at you work no matter how hard you do , and once the word spreads out you will have every male boss wagging thier tongue for you , and your work capability will no longer be considered or observed the moment you turn into a object of desire.There wont be any respect for the position you earned after going through all this , but pure " bitch" image that will lead you into further work oriented relationships, leaving you a unsatisfied person which will show in your attitude , behavior and daily life,.. my say " NOT WORTH IT"
Cheating relationship:
These are relationships that start from a lie and end up with truth, like two timing or married man having an affair wit unmarried girl without letting her know that he is married and vice-versa, committed girls cheating boys that they dont have bf, and vice-versa.
People who initiate such relationships do it intentionally coz they are not happy with the spouse/hubby/bf/gf, or simply because they just had a big fight and decide to break up momentarily and they start a new relation always knowing that they will get back to thier old bf/gf. People in these relationships are very ficklish or cunning, they do it for sex/money/revenge/ego satisfaction that they have cheated their bf/gf successfully without thier knowledge. In most scenarios the victims of these relationships go through a lot of trauma and heart break not knowing that they have been played by a cunning/ undecisive person. These relationships end the moment " truth" or the real character of the initiator comes out , and involves many people creating dramatic scenes and usually end up on a sad note.
But there are girls/boys i have seen who compromise thier life and feelings as they are in no state of mind to move on , and they are way too much in love with the initiator and they decide to forgive them and decide to stick to them, making themselves all the more scape goats for the other partner. These people are emotional slaves and end up as mistress/second fiddle to the other partner and this particular phase is very dangerous for victims as they do not listen to parents or well wishers or anybody who is against such compromise and in the process loose everybody and remain alone, still sticking to thier decietful partner.This is exactly the cunning partners wants and once they confirm that tier victim is in shallow waters they make thier moves quickly and calculative to trap them once and for all.
These relationships land no where and end up abruptly without fail, i havent seen any of these relationships succeeding till date, the only success part is that in few rare cases, the victims stick all thier life to thier cunning partner But get nothing out of the relationship , no love, no respect, no social status nothing but end up being emotional slave all thier life . i say : DONT EVEN THINK ABOUT IT".
Happily married :
are you ready for the ultimate reality of happily married life? well happily married lives are rare these days, but if we go a little back into the past, we rarely heard of any divorces or bad marriages, ever wondered why? we always saw our parents together, unlike in the west where kids have to go trough a lot shuffling between separated parents and ever changing mom's and dad's.ever thought why our parents were always together although we could see clearly the differences between them in everything they do, think, talk,? Nah we never had time to give attention to thier sacrifice and compromise that they have done for us, Yes there is nothing called happily married life, but there is something called happy compromise. A happy marriage is nothing but compromise and only compromises work in this world or rather in any marriage.Compromise to put up wit each other even though we dont feel like seeing each others face even for a minute, compromise to give up careers, compromise to stay back at home and watch your husband climb up his career ladder and take care of his kids, Yes most compromises are from women, and which is why mother is such an important person in the family and she commands utter respect and devotion unquestionably than the father.
But is mother means only giving birth? is she important only or that? no, we see infants thrown in dustbins , she is also a mother, and we also see mothers killing thier kids becoz of extramarital affairs as they are disturbances,but the mother we know is different because she gave up everything in her life for her husband , kids sake. This is ultimate compromise and sacrifice that our women used to do in order to make a marriage work and that is the secret of happy marriage.
Now you can ask me , where is the love part? frankly speaking Love makes us all selfish contrary to what is said, you know when you ask you parents about what was thier journey like? they look back 30 years and remember you opening your eyes, crawling, your first step, your first bicycle, your school uniform , your mischief.. every phase to till date and they feel rather proud about it and strangely never think of when they forgot all thier differences and arguments in this journey and they can see only love towards each other, and thier bought up which is you , doing just fine in this world. well that is age old classic marriage which is outdated but for some strange reasons always worked and still works. IF marriages were to get divorced then why get married? i still amaze at the thought of how two people without even talking to each other before marriage lived all thier lives together just because thier parents ? This concept is rusted but not extinct, i still see a odd couple here and there exhibiting such compromises to make thier marriage work, HATSS OFF to those mothers and sisters who gave us all what we are today we miss you .
TRUE LOVE :
True love relationship, is the most debated topic of all time, does true love exist? if yes how do we know? what are its characteristics? True love does exist and it is different from all the nonsensical definitons and bull crap forwarded mails, cheap comparisions and silly organ donation camps. True love is a blessing to those people who understand the nature of love, it is a divine .
but to understand love, you should have one quality that is self- restrospection, and the enemy of love is self-centered attitude, i dint say selfish because selfish is different from self-centered, people in love tend to become selfish often.also love is never the same between two people, love cannot be defined in words nor can be felt in sentences, we can only come close through our expression but can never feel it unless we fall in love. Love has no boundaries and no rules , no age, love makes human beings purer from inside and makes them believe in giving without expecting in return, which is why they say everybody should fall in love atleast once in thier life. love is not what we see today and definitely ot what we think , lovers know the moment they fall in it, and the moment its true nature comes out. Love deals with only two feelings, happy and sad, Happy lovers and sad lovers both go through the same amount of pain and happiness, Love does not want your kidney like idly nor your eye balls like lollipops that they show in music videos, in order to show true love, we wont realise that we are blessed with true for a long long time, even if have it all the time, we realise the moment its gone, lot of people come and go into our lives and some of them come very close to our hearts, but thats all about it, your heart knows the difference between love and these close bonds, so keep falling in love ...
Forcible relationships:
Sounds weird? yes this one really is, there are a lot of chauvanistic alpha males out there who turn any of these above said relationships into forcible relationships .Mostly guys who are physically strong and have good network, political support, and rich back grounds force themselves and thier partner into these relationships.They have everything that is required for a mini mafia gang needs and they dont lok one bit abnormal to the outside world, they dont care even if thier partner doesnt want to be with him, purely out of EGO, GOD SYNDROME, AND CONTROL FREAK ATTITUDE. Forcible relationships are one side and work according to the whims and fancies of the guy making the girl vegetableor a show case doll. It is hard to satisfy the dominating male's ever growing demands and sexual fantasies , girls in these relationships just dont have a choice but some how convince the guy to let them go free, because guys in these relationships take total control of the situations and also the girls family and are capable of harming and going to any extent if the girl tries to escape or disobey.
I have seen cases of women approaching cops,women organisaitons,media, but still not able to get rid of these guys, all your attempts to break free might give you temporary freedom but he will come back with vengeance only to make matters worse. These relationships last as long as the dominating male wants them to last or he moves on to a different girl and lets you go free. There are no ways to get out of this one . Girls beware the next time you talk about individuality make sure you dont get one of these guys.acid attacks, murders, burning girls live, etc are result of these relationships.
Live - in - relationships:
The most hated relationship in indian parents, thier nightmare and lovers pride. This was illegal till 2004 , untill allahabad high court gave a historic judgement that changed the face of pre marital relationships in india.
Live-in- relationships are quite common in other countries but in a culture oriented society like india,moving in with your bf/gf is still a taboo , sin and will not be approved at any cost. However this is my favorite relationship, which will actually give time for both partners understand each other and know each other inside out, this is no different from married life only that the respect between lovers is still intact.There wont be taking things for granted and both partners put in their equal sincere efforts to make this work, and mind you its not out of compulsion but out of pure will. This opens a window to a different angle of life and challenges your husband/bf/wive/gf qualities unlike any other relationship.
Live-in-relationships are practical , far more romantic with commitment levels high, you will enjoy each and every moment in this relationship as there is always a insecurity of break up although it doesnt play a major role, but on the contrary keeps the fizz in the relationship for a long time. Couples in live-in's are far more happy than normal married couples. This doesnt compell you to please each others parents or family. There wont be any hassles of late coming, late night outs and partners have more space and time to express and experiment thier feelings for a better experience.
Success ratio: The one and only reason for the failure of live-in is that all live-in's have to turn into marriages at one point or the other if partners are strongly in love, there comes a phase where a question pops up how long?it leads to situation where you are forced to declare your relationship and give it a social status and live-in turns into a marriage. The additional resposibilites , inlaws, brothers, sisters etc come into picture killing the original spice of relationship. Free time replaced by traditions , something live-in couples are not used to , and there goes the argument about who dunnit and end of story.50% of live-in relationships turned marriages work, while the other 50% lead to break ups or live-in with different partner or one of the partner deciding to go back to home for various reasons.Live-in's also offer a no hard feelings break ups if both partners want to call it quits, i say they are better than making fun of yourselves and you families infront of hundreds of people after spending lot of money on a marriage and then end up in courts fighting for divorce for people who dont believe in the institution of marriage this is a boon.
Live-in-relationships are the answer for declining successful marriage ratios in india, Atleast they dont make a lot of sound while starting and explode while breaking up. live-in's are strictly for practical minded persons for for emotional people.
FOR guys who are confused what kind of girl are they dating :
Types of girls:
Well bought up girls :
These girls are angels of thier fathers and do not do anything to hurt thier families or parents, they have values and morals and think practically and are not selfish, Qualities of well bred family that pass on healthy body and mind to the next gen. They handle every situation calmly and practically and generally do not take any unnecessary risk or do not go haywire with thier life. They love living simply and happily. Thier life is routine with friends family cousins and bf, not much outdoor activities apart from movies, drives,games, ice creams and an occasional party or wedding. They love thier boyfriend to the core and they are loyal to themselves and to thier bf's. they make sure thier relationship leads to a wedding only in exceptional cases where their choice turns out to be wrong. Thier clothing is mixed, and stick to salwars and jeans and kurta.
They dont show off even if they are rich nor do they hide if they are from a financially weak back ground, they value thier integrity which earns them respect and acceptence wherever they go .
They are every man's dream girl friend and wives, they might be boring and religious but boys they are worth everything. any guy who looses a girl from tis category is a fool, and will curse his luck for the rest of his life.
they make excellent friends and very good advisors, they are good at studies and etiquette. They respect elders and respect elders, they are calm and smooth and equally focussed, these girls are extincting fast, due to corrupt fake outside culture, so if you have a gf like this treasure her.
The headstrong girls:
Head strong because of rich fathers, powerful family back drops, successful academics, or careers, or just because they are beautiful.these girls behave typically and show off at every possible chance and flaunt thier attitude at every oppurtunity, they talk nonsense and unrelated topics only to make sure you understand that they are certain clan. They are difficult to put up with and they have a strong mentality , they either choose guys from similar back ground or guys from very weak financial back drops, to make sure they dominance continues, thier head strongness is gone the moment they meet somebody who are more beautiful. powerful and rich and all that attitude succumbs infront of them or turn into jealousy. Thier dressing is loud and they are brand consious, and want to be seen in every happening joint or club in the city.
They are selfish and love themselves than anybody else, low ethics, but still good on morals and integrity because thier pride takes the first seat.they love snubbing everybody around them and pose that they are rock solid. These girls can be tamed and they make a normal gf and do just fine, they need someone who can introduce them to themselves minus all the luggage that they carry, and that does the trick.
Once tamed they are darling ready to learn and co-operate with thier new found personality, if you have a headstrong girl do not encourage her but instead snub her as if she is nobody special.They are not a threat to any relationship.
The level headed girls:
These are girls who have seen life as it is, at an early age , who have accepted responsibilites of the family and have understood harsh realities of life, so they do not get excited for every small happiness nor do they feel let down for every small loss.They are practical in life and do not trust anybody easily, they have high self respect quotient , as they have proved themselves in life and do not bow down to any relationship. They choose their partner carefully and after a great observation, they prefer partners from similar back drops but will do just fine with anybody because of thier level headedness. People mistake thier body language and approach to ego and pride, which is not the case. They are introverts and who do not gel with people instantly but when you spend enough time with them they are volcanoes ready to erupt, and they are entirely different person the moment they accept you.
They dont mak fuss about accessories , clothes, jewellery or anything but tend to have one strong weakness like short temper, shopoholic,cell phone addiction, books etc. They prefer spending most of their leisure time at home or with friends at quite places rather than noisy venues. They might get into smoking an drinking but occasionally which also come under their weakness.Apart from these few drawbacks, level headed girls make very good companions for life, and good gf's. They might not react emotionally like other girls while breaking up but they do go through emotional agony , it takes some time for guys to understand level headed girls, because most of the guys overlook them and brand them as weirdos.
The ficklish girls:
Fickle minded/ un decisive/ girls contribute to a high percentage of girls around the world. Living upto the starting words they truly behave ficklish, most part of thier life. they have no idea what they want and always end with wrong thing and feel happy about it for a very short period before they change mind and go back to searching what they want. This behavior is result of lot of factors " parents" " imaginative childhood" " lonely childhood" " too much of exposure to girly world" they behave like this unknowingly or thinking they are doing the right thing, they fall in love easily and fall out of love easily, these girls are best gf's for guys who want to manipulate and get rid of them after some time , they create trouble for themselves and for the family all the time, switching between thier decisions and family's decisions suddenly, leading to confusion all around them, they are not satisfied with anything unless they check out thier options and choose. They spoil relationships very easily without even knowing whether its love or attraction.
These girls need guys who can soothe them with words every single day, God help you if your gf is ficklish.
The YO-YO girls :
Yo-Yo girls are msotly teens who want to live the american dream, they want to talk like those kids and teens in TV and movies, they want to wear loud metal band t- shirts, torn jeans, bandanas, metal accessories, hippy hairstyles, piercings and basically try everything that is available to make them look rebels. The put on accent to thier english although their original english is pretty sad. They choose thier fellow punks as boy friends and start smoking / drinking/drugs/sex/abortions at a early age. They do not respect anybody or love thier parents they are in this HATE THE WORLD trance borrowed from lyrics of the music that they listen to, they know byd barrett but dont know the president of this country .They are poor at studies and stay away from normal civilization forgetting the fact that after a few years they have to return to human again, they dont like long term relationships and change thier partners quite frequently, but all this under the teenage shadow, these girls once out of the trance behave very normal and even laugh at what they used to be before.
They mean no harm to family, just that they have to pass that phase on thier own terms and they will sober down or reality would stop them and teach a lesson with a tight slap, so if your gf is yo-yo then you got to be a punk too....
Manipulative girls:
These are the ones to watch out for, when a girl starts manipulating not even gods could withstand the consequences , imagine humans? Manipulative girls are often the result of thier upbringing, and take the qualities from any one of thier parent either mom/dad.Very few manipulative girls cross all barriers and turn manipulative, irrespective of thier birth, broughtup,culture etc, They are predetermined in everything and anything they do, they fall down to any level if necessary or can maintain a stature if required. They do not do anything out of emotion but act and move only out of intention, they might fall in love for real but due to thier nature they will start manipulating thier bf and thier relationship. manipulative girls create a lot of humiliation in relationships and sometimes even force thier bf/husband to committ suicide. They become all the more stubborn if thier planning doesnt work and take things personally, they are quite dramatice and usually master every art of womanhood, they make great sex partners crippling thier male counterparts mind. Manipulative girls have loose morals , but do love thier partner and once thier character is exposed they tend to move away from that person or the place permanently . They are very insecure about someone finding thier true nature and love all thier live in lies and pretence.
Manipulative girls once successful in what they want, they sober down until they decide thier next goal and start manipulating again.Guys.. who got manipulative gf's becareful before things get out of hand they have huge apetite for money/sex/revenge/career no matter how. They will make you fight with your family and friends and makes sure you will have nobody on mind except them, they make thier bf's go through a lot of struggle and pain.
The cursed one's:
These girls are every man's nightmare, they appear and look every bit like any other girls but mostly prefer hiding under the shadow of yo-yo and manipulative girls, they are curse to parents, nobody really understand how they bought these one's into this world. They are pure evil and cheap they dont have character or morals or gratefulness, they have no regard for anything and anybody whatsoever. They talk about being straight forward but inside they are pure liars and manipulators and thieves. They dont stick to any guy for long and even if they do they are always three timing of not more, they love drugs/alcohol/ and are sex slaves. they dont care who they sleep with and never think about family or siblings. They use anybody and everybody for thier selfish needs, and self-centered people cannot love anybody, they dont mind killing thier own if required or if its profitable. They try every relationship on the planet just for the kick of it, they feel they are happening and living a life, but all they do is live like scavengers, feeding on other people's money, feelings, kindness, and love. They dress provocatively and invite guys with eyes full of lust, they master every art of disguise and drama and enact any feeling and emotion instantly.they destroy everything and anybody they touch, when you try to tame them they react violently .
They can never live a normal life in their life time and end up loners on the roads like retards or die with high doses of drugs or end up being mistress to many men .They are cheaper than prostitutes, if any guy is in love with such a girl get ready for serious shit if you are not already into it,.
The adamant Bitch:
Ok i know the title sounds atrocious so are the girls, these girls are a mix of wellboughtup, level headed, manipulative to some extent, but a quality that makes them unbearable is " Adamancy", dont know how and where they manage to absorb this quality into their blood, they screw up everything including their happiness.
The have mind blocks and predetermined opinions and views which cannot be reviewed or changed for anybody, even if we prove that what they are believing is wrong and show them the consequences of their behavior.. they will avoid you or fight with you rather than giving it a thought, reason? ADAMANCY , they know everything what is good and bad, but their adamant feministic ego doesnt let them stay in peace.They mess up thier relations with friends, family, husband, parents,son, daughters, but will never learn the fact that all this loneliness and struggle is because of a simple mindset.
They get ready to die before they accept that they were wrong. They do not agree to anything that is different from what they believe and react hysterically and shout and create scenes to convince or dominate the other person, They are highly hypocratic, they listen to everything and still come back to the same point saying " im happy the way iam " this line is the most cheesy line i keep hearing. I mean if your relationship with your loved ones's are straining with your attitude, what are you still proud off? They normally want everybody around them ti listen to them or change according to them, anybody who doesnt oblige will be the stock of her bitching sessions.for some weird reasons thier adamancy dies or vanishes when it comes to something they love like " career" " money" ", most of these woman dont have much priorities in life apart from those mentioned . They want their marriage on their terms or else they will stitch a reason tailor made for their own " self victimisation cause" and end it without a doubt, when confronted they come up lines lines " you dont know what it is to be a woman" " i have been through a lot" etc, which are infact lines to cover their looser alter ego , which wont let them admit that they have messed up and the fault somehow is thiers, deep inside she knows what went wrong, but the very thought is discomforting for them.
They keep fighting with everybody and when there is nobody left to fight they cry sitting in darkness, if only they could understand " its never too late to start a good thing". They drink, smoke and sleep once they are outside marriage ( which had to go to hell) and try out second marriage only to mess it up again. Kids of such mothers grow up in a very insecure and imaginative environment not understanding thier mothers nature. These kids grow up hating or disrespecting tier mother and most like elope or break away from thier mother forever, leaving these women lonely for the rest of thier life, with parents dead and kids gone away and no husband and no proper ties with siblings and aging, these woman end up in old age homes or die eating something " So much for feel of freedom"?
Ok enough of woman bashing, now can we face the reality thebullsays way? well if its here then it has to be harsh aint it?
FAQ's
Q:So what are you trying to tell here? that all women are cheap and Men are good?
A: Typical feminine questions, if i say A is bad does that mean B is good? we dint even discuss about B here, this is what you should come out of, " ASSumptions", no where i mentioned that girls are cheap, i categorised women according to thier behavior.
Q: Who do you think you are, what makes you think you know so much about women?
A: well im a casanova and who ever you are, i dated more girls than anybody you met in your entire life time and multiply it with your age, still dint get a number? get back to your pathetic life.
Q:Why are so male chauvanistic? why do you always target women?
A: rightly said, i accept my words do sound like chauvanistic , but arent those the facts? where do you live? as far as my knowledge is concerned people still call a girl with multiple bf's the B word, and still call a man playboy if he does the same, and mind you that these so called B words are branded and spread by women , well we still live in a male dominated society and still play by the rules of men, hurts? yes it does whether you like it or not, ignore the above lines my point being i want all women to understand how much you are important to this country and society.
Q: so according to you all women should stay at home and in kitchen and then you call them as cultured?
A: there are countries out there who still dont allow thier women come out without parda, and no man apart from immediate blood relative is to accompany them, i dont see those woman coming out and shouting that all that should change on the contrary they say they are proud of it? so if they can do that why cant you ? is culture all about cheating your parents and back stabbing thier faith and sleeping with guys and changing dresses once you step outside, maintaining secret cell phones, smoking, drinking? are all these symptoms of culture? then pardon me, im still in afghanistan.
Q:According to you who is an ideal girl?
A: There are no ideal girls, my girl who is sensible enough to understand the seriousness of the relationship and what ever comes with it.
Q:How can a man who has been into so many relationships talk about love and committment?
A: Dumb question , you need to raise above that maturity level to understand how dumb the question was, or else you wouldnt have asked.i can answer your question in a different way but it will be rocket science for your understanding levels.
Q:Now why cant a women also think like guys and get into multiple relationships to understand guys ?
A:well im not sure if you can do that sweety, why dont you ask youR dad? and see what happens?
Q:why should we even believe you ?
A: Who is asking you to believe me? Im no BABA to ask you to follow me,
Q:how exactly do you see a woman,? What does she mean to you . sex toy?
A: Finally some sensible question, woman to me is another form of purity, love,and respect, which is why we love them so much, and treat them as our family's pride, woman has that one quality that levels them with god " PATIENCE" if its not for that quality there wouldnt be any difference between men and women. Woman is life giver, woman is my strength and courage to move on and achieve what i have to in life, if we shout a little louder woman cry, because they are that sensitive and are equal to flowers,my agony is that they are not understanding how special they are and they are fast erasing all the differences between men and them and falling down to the levels of men.
Q: Why cant men ever grow up ?
A: Men have been growing up the same way since last 1000 years , but there have been tremendous changes in the way girls are bought up in the last 20 years, so your kind of change wont come so quickly.
I wanted to post types of Men as well, here but anybody who wants to know how many types of men are there and thier behavior patterns write to me godfatherreturns@gmail.com will send you the content, surely men dont deserve to be posted here...please do give me you feedback good, bad, ugly in any form to the above mentioned email id.. Have a good one ...
